No matter how phobic a person is, deep down, deep down, it is the desire to find that special person with whom they can spend the rest of their lives. You may want to find that special person, but it can be a nightmare to try to find the one you expect and pray is right for you. As you build your relationship, you have to navigate a minefield of communication problems, tantrums, feelings and emotions. Once you have found that special person, then the work really begins and you must commit to working on your relationship for the rest of your life. While the stages of a relationship are relatively simple, at least in theory, the way the relationship progresses is rarely.
All relationships begin when you meet someone who plays chords with you. Many people consider that moment as the point at which they fall in love, and I regret being so miserable, but the first stage is not love, it is falling in love. Although I have to admit that falling in love sounds much more romantic than falling in love. Infatuate is where you begin to build your first tenuous bond with your potential partner. It is a very loose connection and it is there to give you the opportunity to get to know yourself better, and while it may be a tenuous link, the passion between you is intense.
After a while you begin to get used to it, it is no longer an exciting adventure and the initial magic begins to fade. This point is probably the most crucial of all the stages of a relationship because it is the first time you discover how much connection you have between them. If during the infatuation stage you were never really connected, this is the first point where you could break with each other. On the other hand, if you still feel something for each other and both want to explore that feeling, then this is where the fun begins.
While you were in the stage of falling in love, you had an intense passion that impelled you and, when that happens, your relationship may feel a little empty and if you had never really connected, you could be struggling to see the way forward. It is at this point that you see your partner who they are for the first time, which may be surprising, because while you were in the infatuation stage there may be things about your partner that you could ignore, not any More.
When you begin to see flaws in your partner or you see that they are not as perfect as you thought at first, then you can start asking yourself how you can change them, for your own good, of course. Undoubtedly, your partner has some habits that could really help change, such as digging and devouring the contents of your nostrils in public. You might end up making your partner a better person if you get rid of some of your most cosmetic habits, BUT the problem is if you can stop there, or try to change who they are. If you manage to change who your partner is, are they still the person you fell in love with and can you still love them? And, of course, if you resist the change, it is likely to push you to separate. And do not forget, you could have habits that also make you crazy. The odds of you finding a partner that is perfect in every way are astronomical, learn to be happy with whoever you have fallen in love with and do not try to ruin it.
As they continue to talk to each other they will learn to communicate with each other. You will discover what makes your partner go, your wishes and needs, your hopes and your dreams. This is the point at which you begin to grow your friendship that, if allowed to develop, will eventually become love. It saddens me to say that until now many couples lose the ability to really relate to each other, which is a shame because communication is what united them, what nurtured and developed their relationship, and without communication they have no relationship. A collapse in communication destroys more marriages and relationships than anything else, so never stop talking to each other.
If there is a sufficient connection between you, then you will accept your partner for what they are, and you will love them for the unique individual they are. Your bond of love, friendship and affection will be much deeper and if you have not yet reached that stage, you will approach the stage of being in a committed relationship. You know that neither is perfect, but you accept it because those imperfections are part of who you are. Now you have realized that your partner can not meet all your needs and accepts to accept what they offer you. At this point, you should also have realized that you are responsible for your own happiness.
Finally you reach the stage where you are a couple that (hopefully) is committed to creating the best relationship you can. They share one another live, they are best friends and each one is the first person their partner turns to in times of need. You are totally committed to one another and have a shared vision for your future together.
At some point, you may or may not have children just as you may or may not get married. The important thing is that both advance together because it is what both want, and that both are happy together.
If you get married, make sure it’s for the right reasons, because it’s something you both want! All that has taken you to this point was a training camp. Once they get married and come together, then the work of building a lifelong relationship really begins. You will go through times when it is difficult for you to face some serious problems along the way, but if you remain committed to one another and to your marriage, and if you work to create the best possible life together, then you should be fine. .
The stages of a relationship can be a difficult path, but if it should be like that, then it will happen. Whatever you do, do not try to develop a relationship if the basic concepts of friendship and care are not there. When you advance you have to move together, you both should want this relationship to happen, and you both have to work for this to happen. You will have problems along the way, and some of them can be serious, but as long as you continue to work together, you should continue to grow together.