The Internet has changed our lives dramatically in the last twenty years. Every aspect of our lives has become faster, better, safer and easier than ever. Romance and dating have been more affected than most with the growing popularity of online dating, Facebook and mobile phones.
Unless you work in a big city, have many friends or participate in other activities at night or on weekends, finding someone special to share your life with will always be difficult. The usual methods of going to pubs or clubs were, and still are, fraught with difficulties. The Internet has allowed potential couple seekers to advertise to the world and wait to see what answers they get. For years, it was always thought that this was a method for sad people without social skills and was often ridiculed. However, the basic premise was sound. Internet provided the missing ingredient that many love seekers were missing in their search, reach. Suddenly, they did not limit themselves to their circle of friends and co-workers. Now thousands of potential romantic couples with similar ideas were being promoted 24 hours a day. Not everything was improved with the advent of online dating. Like any other system, online dating was prone to misuse by ungenuine people with exaggerated profiles or simply fake and profile pictures. This has been improved in recent years with the increasing popularity of social networking sites such as Facebook and Instagram.
A common use of Facebook for dating is to gather useful information about your potential date. This could be used to ensure that the person you believe you are meeting is genuine and who you say you are. Social networks leave a trail for anyone to find important information about a potential date. The main benefit here is with respect to security. If you can confirm that the person is genuine, it is less risky to know. Another advantage of using Facebook, Twitter or another social networking site to get an idea of a potential date is that it can give you some useful topics to talk about. The first dates are difficult, but with a handful of topics in which you know that your date has interest will make the whole process much easier.
Once in a relationship, technology has also had a great impact on the way we chat, flirt, and generally stay in touch with your partner. Twenty years ago, fixed line was the only way to communicate with a loved one when they were not together. The way we live has changed. Now we are always available with the use of mobile phones and tablets. The use of SMS text messages has had a massive impact on our daily lives. Invented primarily to send short and informative messages, they now form the bulk of communication between romantic couples when they are not in each other’s company. The advantages of text messages are that they are quick and convenient and can be answered to your liking. An important drawback is that the written text does not allow any inflection or emotion to be added, so the messages can be misinterpreted. In addition, there is the dreaded mix of predictive text in which the phone replaces what you are writing with what you think you wanted to write. This can have disastrous effects but it also provides some laughter. Some people even use SMS to break up with their partner.
Technology has improved the way we find love and communication with our loved ones, but it has also taken us away from our loved ones with our dependence on quick and easy ways to tell how we feel. Nothing can replace contact and face-to-face conversation, but we hope that technology can help fill in the gaps when we are separated.